Funeral Music Mistakes to Avoid: When NOT to Play Their Favorite Song
10 min read · Updated February 2026
Funeral Music Mistakes to Avoid
With good intentions, well-meaning family members can make funeral music mistakes that undermine the service. Learn what to avoid.
Good Intentions, Wrong Execution
Mistakes usually come from not thinking through the full implications of song choices or technical considerations.
Mistake: Not Reading the Full Lyrics
Many beloved songs have lyrics that become inappropriate in a funeral context. Always read the complete lyrics before selecting a song.
Mistake: Playing the Wrong Version
Some songs have multiple versions. Choose the right one—acoustic rather than rock, classical rather than pop arrangement.
Mistake: Too Much (or Too Little) Music
Silence matters. Too much music prevents people from processing grief; too little creates uncomfortable void.
Mistake: No Backup Plan for Technology
Technology fails. Always have multiple backup plans—different devices, physical copies, and alternate songs ready.