Funeral Songs for Grandparents:
Honoring Grandma & Grandpa
Funeral songs for grandparents honor the wisdom, unconditional love, and lasting legacy of grandmothers and grandfathers who shaped our families across generations. From traditional hymns that brought them comfort to classic songs from their era, these selections celebrate lives well-lived and the precious memories they leave behind.
Choosing Songs for Grandparents
Grandparents hold a special place in family history, bridging generations with wisdom, unconditional love, and cherished traditions. Their funerals often bring together multiple generations to celebrate lives that spanned decades of change, growth, and enduring family bonds.
The music chosen for grandparent funerals should reflect their era, values, and the comfort they brought to family gatherings. Whether they preferred traditional hymns sung in church, classic country songs, or big band melodies from their youth, the right songs honor both their individual personality and their role as the family's foundation. Many families choose a mix of religious hymns and secular favorites that capture the full spectrum of a grandparent's long, well-lived life.
Recommended Songs for Grandparents
These songs honor grandparents' wisdom, faith, and enduring love. The collection includes traditional hymns beloved by older generations, classic songs from their formative years, and timeless tributes celebrating family legacy and reunion.
Traditional
A timeless hymn of redemption and hope that has comforted mourners for centuries.
Why it's meaningful: This beloved hymn speaks of salvation and the journey from loss to grace, offering profound comfort to those grieving.
Best moment: Often played during the processional or as a closing hymn.
Mahalia Jackson
Written by Thomas Dorsey after losing his wife and infant son, this deeply personal hymn has become the quintessential gospel funeral song.
Why it's meaningful: Its heartfelt plea for divine guidance through life's darkness resonates deeply with mourners.
Best moment: Perfect for processional or during reflection moments.
The Beatles
A tender reflection on places and people who shaped us, acknowledging that love endures even as life changes.
Why it's meaningful: Perfectly balances honoring the past while acknowledging loss.
Best moment: Universal choice for honoring anyone, celebrating their place in your life.
Traditional Hymn
A majestic hymn praising God
Why it's meaningful: Offers hope of reunion in heaven and celebrates faith
Best moment: Powerful as a congregational hymn or solo performance.
Israel Kamakawiwoʻole
A gentle ukulele version that transforms the classic into a peaceful farewell.
Why it's meaningful: The Hawaiian rendition brings a sense of peace and the promise of a better place.
Best moment: Creates a serene atmosphere during reflection or exit.
Requiem
Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
Mozart's unfinished masterpiece, a hauntingly beautiful mass for the dead composed in his final days.
Why it's meaningful: Combines the majesty of classical music with the solemnity of the Catholic mass for the dead.
Best moment: Appropriate for formal Catholic services or classical music lovers.
Going Up Yonder
Walter Hawkins
This uplifting anthem celebrates the promise of heaven and eternal life, transforming grief into hope.
Why it's meaningful: A staple in Black Protestant funeral traditions, it focuses on the glorious reunion awaiting believers in heaven during homegoing services.
Best moment: Powerful as a recessional or celebration of life moment.
Soon and Very Soon
Andraé Crouch
This triumphant song anticipates the joy of seeing Jesus and being reunited with loved ones in heaven.
Why it's meaningful: Based on Revelation 21:3-4, it speaks of no more crying or dying. Performed at Michael Jackson's memorial service.
Best moment: Celebratory recessional or closing hymn.
I'll Fly Away
Albert Brumley
This song uses the metaphor of a bird freed from prison to describe the soul's joyous release into heaven.
Why it's meaningful: The most recorded gospel song of all time with over 1,000 versions, celebrating joyous liberation death brings to believers.
Best moment: Perfect for New Orleans jazz funerals and celebration of life services.
It Is Well With My Soul
Horatio Spafford
Written as Spafford sailed over the spot where his four daughters drowned, this hymn of faith emerged from unimaginable grief.
Why it's meaningful: Despite devastating loss, Spafford declared 'it is well' - a profound statement of faith that inspires mourners.
Best moment: Powerful testimony of faith during the darkest moments.
Will the Circle Be Unbroken
The Carter Family
Classic American folk hymn about family reunion in heaven, with the Carter Family's iconic harmonies.
Why it's meaningful: The promise of reuniting in an unbroken circle offers hope that families separated by death will be together again.
Best moment: Perfect for family patriarchs/matriarchs or emphasizing heavenly reunion.
We'll Meet Again
Vera Lynn
Iconic WWII-era song promising reunion, embodying hope during separation and loss.
Why it's meaningful: Offers comfort through the belief that loved ones will be reunited beyond this life.
Best moment: Perfect for honoring the Greatest Generation or those who lived through WWII.
Sarah McLachlan
A tender song offering comfort and release from suffering.
Why it's meaningful: Provides solace with its message of finding peace after struggle.
Best moment: Deeply moving during times of quiet reflection.
Louis Armstrong
A celebration of life
Why it's meaningful: Reminds us to appreciate the world our loved one cherished.
Best moment: Uplifting choice for celebrating a life of gratitude.
10,000 Reasons (Bless the Lord)
Matt Redman
A modern worship song about finding reasons to be grateful even in sorrow.
Why it's meaningful: Encourages thankfulness for a life lived while trusting in divine comfort.
Best moment: Uplifting during Christian services focused on celebration rather than mourning.
America the Beautiful
Ray Charles
Ray Charles' soulful rendition of this patriotic hymn, blending gospel passion with American pride.
Why it's meaningful: Combines patriotic pride with spiritual gratitude, honoring both country and faith together.
Best moment: Moving as a tribute to veterans who loved their country.
Total Praise
Richard Smallwood
Written while Smallwood cared for his mother with dementia, this powerful song based on Psalm 121 became an anthem of worship and surrender.
Why it's meaningful: Performed at Aretha Franklin's funeral, it's become a signature gospel funeral song.
Best moment: Powerful during worship moments or as a solo performance.
His Eye Is on the Sparrow
Ethel Waters
Inspired by a disabled couple's unwavering faith, this hymn assures God watches over the smallest creatures and us.
Why it's meaningful: The message of divine care and protection brings comfort, reminding us loved ones remain in God's watchful care.
Best moment: Beautiful during quiet reflection or meditation.
Order My Steps
GMWA Women of Worship
This passionate prayer for divine guidance resonates deeply at funerals as families seek comfort in knowing their loved one walked in God's path.
Why it's meaningful: Initially rejected before being embraced, the song's journey mirrors how grief transforms into acceptance.
Best moment: Meaningful during worship or reflection time.
Never Would Have Made It
Marvin Sapp
Written after the death of Sapp's wife, this powerful testimony about surviving with God's help became a gospel standard.
Why it's meaningful: Its message of God's sustaining power through tragedy speaks directly to mourners.
Best moment: Powerful testimony song during eulogies or tributes.
Swing Low, Sweet Chariot
Traditional Spiritual
This African American spiritual uses the biblical story of Elijah being taken to heaven in a chariot as a metaphor for death and spiritual liberation.
Why it's meaningful: For enslaved people, it represented hope for freedom—either escape or eternal freedom in heaven—a profound symbol of deliverance.
Best moment: Traditional choice for processional or recessional.
Because He Lives
Bill and Gloria Gaither
Written during the turbulent late 1960s, this song finds hope in Christ's resurrection as the answer to life's uncertainties.
Why it's meaningful: Christ's victory over death gives mourners hope that their loved one shares in eternal life.
Best moment: Hopeful choice for celebrating resurrection faith.
What a Friend We Have in Jesus
Traditional Hymn
Written by Joseph Scriven to comfort his mother after his fiancée drowned, this hymn emphasizes Jesus as the ultimate friend who bears our sorrows.
Why it's meaningful: Scriven's personal tragedy inspired words that comfort millions facing loss.
Best moment: Comforting during quiet reflection or congregational singing.
Oh Happy Day
Edwin Hawkins Singers
This joyful arrangement of an 18th-century hymn became a crossover hit, reaching #4 on Billboard Hot 100.
Why it's meaningful: Exuberant celebration of Jesus washing sins away brings uplifting, celebratory tone to homegoing services.
Best moment: Perfect for celebration of life and joyful homegoing services.
When I Get Where I'm Going
Brad Paisley ft. Dolly Parton
A hopeful country duet about heaven's promise of reunion with loved ones who've gone before.
Why it's meaningful: While emotional about separation, the focus on eventual reunion and heaven's peace brings comfort.
Best moment: Bittersweet choice balancing sorrow with hope of reunion.
Just a Closer Walk With Thee
Traditional Gospel
Traditional gospel hymn often played by jazz bands in New Orleans funerals, combining spiritual yearning with musical celebration.
Why it's meaningful: Expresses desire for divine closeness during grief while honoring the New Orleans tradition of jazz funerals.
Best moment: Processional for New Orleans-style funerals or spiritual services.
His Eye Is On the Sparrow
Mahalia Jackson
Classic gospel song about God's watchful care over even the smallest sparrows, beautifully interpreted by the Queen of Gospel.
Why it's meaningful: If God watches over sparrows, how much more does He care for us - offering deep comfort in faith during grief.
Best moment: Christian funerals emphasizing faith in divine care and protection.
Summertime
Ella Fitzgerald
Gershwin's classic lullaby from Porgy and Bess, performed with Ella's incomparable jazz interpretation.
Why it's meaningful: The gentle lullaby quality promises that life is easy now, offering comfort that the deceased is finally at rest.
Best moment: Beautiful for mothers, children, or anyone deserving peaceful rest.
El Malei Rachamim
Traditional Jewish Prayer
Sacred Jewish memorial prayer meaning 'God Full of Mercy,' chanted at graveside.
Why it's meaningful: Traditional prayer requesting eternal peace for the departed soul.
Best moment: Essential at Jewish funerals, particularly during graveside service.
Vince Gill
A country gospel song about finding eternal rest after life
Why it's meaningful: Written after personal loss, it authentically captures grief and hope.
Best moment: Powerful choice for country music lovers with faith.
Franz Schubert
A classical prayer to Mary that transcends religious boundaries with its beauty.
Why it's meaningful: The melody alone can move hearts, offering comfort through pure beauty.
Best moment: Creates a sacred atmosphere during the service.
We Fall Down
Donnie McClurkin
This song acknowledges human frailty while celebrating the holiness of God, offering hope to mourners struggling with grief.
Why it's meaningful: The message that we fall short but God is holy brings both humility and hope.
Best moment: Uplifting during worship or as a congregational hymn.
Peace Be Still
James Cleveland and The Angelic Choir
This 1963 recording became one of the best-selling gospel albums ever, selling over one million copies.
Why it's meaningful: The command to life's storms to be still offers peace to grieving hearts.
Best moment: Calming choice during reflection or meditation.
I Won't Complain
Rev. Paul Jones
This powerful testimony song about enduring life's hardships with grace became a gospel standard.
Why it's meaningful: Message of gratitude despite trials and refusal to complain honors those who faced adversity with faith.
Best moment: Meaningful for honoring those who faced life with grace.
I Need Thee Every Hour
Annie Hawks
Written by housewife Annie Hawks during a moment of spiritual nearness to God, this hymn expresses constant dependence on divine presence.
Why it's meaningful: Recognition of continual need for God provides comfort to those facing the hourly reality of grief.
Best moment: Tender choice during quiet meditation or prayer.
Nearer, My God, to Thee
Traditional Hymn
Solemn hymn often played by jazz bands during the funeral procession, expressing spiritual longing for divine presence.
Why it's meaningful: Combines sacred yearning with jazz tradition, famously rumored to have been played as the Titanic sank.
Best moment: Processional for New Orleans funerals or traditional services.
Memory Lane
Minnie Riperton
Minnie Riperton's ethereal vocals on this nostalgic journey through cherished memories.
Why it's meaningful: Riperton's five-octave voice creates a celestial quality perfect for honoring beautiful lives.
Best moment: Reflection moments or photo tribute slideshows.
The Day Is Past and Gone
Aretha Franklin
One of Aretha Franklin's most powerful gospel recordings, marking the end of a day and life's journey.
Why it's meaningful: Aretha's unmatched voice transforms this traditional hymn into a transcendent farewell.
Best moment: Christian services honoring women or celebrating gospel heritage.
Simple Gifts
Traditional Shaker Hymn
Old Shaker melody about finding joy in simplicity and being in the right place at the right time.
Why it's meaningful: The gentle message that there's freedom in simplicity honors those who valued what matters most.
Best moment: For those who lived simply or valued spiritual authenticity.
Come Sunday
Mahalia Jackson
Duke Ellington composition from his sacred concert, sung by Mahalia, blending jazz sophistication with gospel fervor.
Why it's meaningful: The meeting of jazz and gospel honors the sacred in the sophisticated, celebrating spiritual devotion with artistic excellence.
Best moment: Beautiful for Christian funerals honoring jazz and gospel traditions.
Wildwood Flower
The Carter Family
Classic American folk song by the Carter Family about love, loss, and faded flowers, with gentle autoharp.
Why it's meaningful: The flower metaphor for fleeting beauty and love honors women
Best moment: Traditional choice for honoring women who loved American folk or country music.
Avinu Malkeinu
Traditional Jewish Prayer
Powerful prayer meaning 'Our Father, Our King,' expressing hope and supplication.
Why it's meaningful: While traditionally sung during High Holidays, it has been requested at funerals for its profound spiritual message.
Best moment: Meaningful when specifically requested by the deceased or family.
Eli, Eli
Traditional (Hannah Szenes)
Prayer-poem by Holocaust heroine Hannah Szenes: 'May these things never end.'
Why it's meaningful: Celebrates eternal beauty of nature and human spirit in face of mortality.
Best moment: Powerful for Holocaust survivors or those who valued nature and resilience.
Traditional Military
The iconic bugle call played at military funerals, symbolizing final rest and peace.
Why it's meaningful: A deeply reverent tribute that honors military service and sacrifice.
Best moment: Traditionally played during the flag folding ceremony or final farewell.
Louis Armstrong
The quintessential New Orleans jazz funeral song, starting somber then exploding into joyful celebration during the second line.
Why it's meaningful: Embodies New Orleans jazz funeral tradition - mourning the loss while celebrating the soul's journey to heaven.
Best moment: Recessional or second line celebration, especially for New Orleans funerals.
Georgia on My Mind
Ray Charles
Ray Charles' iconic soul interpretation of the Hoagy Carmichael classic, full of longing for home.
Why it's meaningful: The longing for Georgia represents nostalgia for home and better times, honoring those who cherished their roots.
Best moment: Perfect for Georgia natives or honoring homesick souls.
Frank Sinatra
An anthem of living life on one
Why it's meaningful: Celebrates individuality and a life lived with conviction.
Best moment: Perfect for honoring someone with a strong, independent spirit.
Hurt
Johnny Cash
Cash's haunting cover of Nine Inch Nails, reflecting on a life lived and the pain that remains.
Why it's meaningful: The raw emotion and reflection on mortality resonates deeply at end-of-life celebrations.
Best moment: Powerful for services honoring those who lived complex, full lives.
Some Gave All
Billy Ray Cyrus
A heartbreaking reminder of how much soldiers give up to serve on the front lines.
Why it's meaningful: Recognizes the bravery of those willing to make the ultimate sacrifice for their country.
Best moment: Appropriate for honoring fallen soldiers and veterans.
If Heaven Wasn't So Far Away
Justin Moore
A country song imagining what you'd do if you could visit heaven for just one day.
Why it's meaningful: Captures the specific moments you miss with deceased loved ones - the everyday activities, the milestones they'll never see.
Best moment: Touching for honoring the specific things you'd want to share with them.
Down by the Riverside
Traditional Spiritual
Upbeat spiritual about laying down burdens by the riverside, frequently played during second line celebrations at New Orleans funerals.
Why it's meaningful: Celebrates laying down life's burdens and finding peace at last.
Best moment: Second line or recessional for celebration of life services.
People Get Ready
The Impressions
Curtis Mayfield's gentle gospel-soul masterpiece about boarding the train to heaven.
Why it's meaningful: The gentle gospel message of boarding the train to glory offers comfort that the deceased has begun their spiritual journey.
Best moment: Perfect for Christian funerals with soul music appreciation.
The Parting Glass
Traditional Irish Folk
Traditional Scottish and Irish farewell song, often sung at the end of gatherings as a final toast.
Why it's meaningful: The tradition of raising a final glass to the departed creates a communal ritual of remembrance and farewell.
Best moment: Perfect for Irish/Scottish funerals or as a closing song for gatherings.
Wayfaring Stranger
Traditional Spiritual
Appalachian spiritual about a traveler going over Jordan to the promised land, with stark beauty.
Why it's meaningful: The image of being a stranger just passing through this world offers comfort that we
Best moment: Beautiful for spiritual services honoring Appalachian or American folk traditions.
Sweet Home Chicago
Robert Johnson
Blues standard about returning home to Chicago, with upbeat tempo and celebration of place.
Why it's meaningful: The longing for home resonates with those who loved Chicago or the concept of finally going home.
Best moment: For Chicago natives or honoring the journey home.
I Am a Man of Constant Sorrow
Traditional Folk
Traditional Appalachian folk song about a life of hardship and wandering, with high lonesome sound.
Why it's meaningful: Honors lives marked by struggle and sorrow, acknowledging that some people faced constant hardship.
Best moment: Honest choice for difficult lives or honoring Appalachian heritage.
Oh, Didn't He Ramble
Traditional Jazz
Lively jazz funeral standard celebrating a life well-lived with all its adventures, traditionally played during the second line.
Why it's meaningful: Honors those who lived fully and boldly, rambling through life's adventures.
Best moment: Second line celebration for those who lived adventurous lives.
God Is Love
Marvin Gaye
Marvin Gaye's spiritual R&B meditation on divine love from his groundbreaking What's Going On album.
Why it's meaningful: Gaye's socially conscious spirituality resonates with those who saw faith through the lens of love and justice.
Best moment: For families of faith who appreciate soul music's spiritual depth.
Take Five
Dave Brubeck Quartet
Iconic instrumental jazz in 5/4 time with Paul Desmond's cool alto saxophone.
Why it's meaningful: The sophisticated, laid-back jazz captures the essence of cool intellectualism and mid-century modern elegance.
Best moment: Perfect for jazz lovers or sophisticated, cerebral individuals.
Hoochie Coochie Man
Muddy Waters
Muddy Waters' swaggering blues anthem of mystical masculine power and charisma.
Why it's meaningful: Celebrates larger-than-life personalities and those who lived with mystique and confidence.
Best moment: For honoring bold characters or celebrating blues heritage.
Lead Me Home
Johnny Lang featuring Blind Boys of Alabama
A soulful prayer for guidance on the journey home.
Why it's meaningful: Blends gospel tradition with modern soul to express the longing for eternal rest.
Best moment: Powerful for those with strong faith seeking comfort in spiritual traditions.
Shenandoah
Traditional American Folk
Traditional American folk song about the Shenandoah River, often sung as a farewell song with longing melody.
Why it's meaningful: The flowing melody evokes journeys and farewells, making it perfect for honoring those who loved nature or American heritage.
Best moment: Reflection moments or honoring connection to American land and rivers.
Blue Moon of Kentucky
Bill Monroe
Bluegrass blues waltz about saying goodbye under the blue moon, with Monroe's high lonesome sound.
Why it's meaningful: The high, lonesome sound of bluegrass captures the ache of mountain farewell songs and rural American grief.
Best moment: Perfect for honoring Appalachian heritage or country music lovers.
The Streets of Laredo
Traditional American Folk
American cowboy ballad about a dying cowboy giving final instructions, with mournful western melody.
Why it's meaningful: The cowboy's stoic acceptance of death honors those who faced the end with quiet dignity.
Best moment: Perfect for honoring western heritage or those who lived by cowboy values.
Selection Tips
For Grandmothers
- • Traditional hymns she sang or played at church
- • Songs about nurturing, family, and home
- • Music from her wedding era or youth
- • Lullabies if she was known for singing to grandchildren
- • Gospel or spiritual songs if faith was central
For Grandfathers
- • Songs about strength, legacy, and guidance
- • Music from his service years if a veteran
- • Country, folk, or big band from his generation
- • Songs reflecting his hobbies or passions
- • Patriotic songs if he valued service and country
Common Questions
What are the best funeral songs for grandparents?
The best funeral songs for grandparents include "In the Garden," "How Great Thou Art," "Amazing Grace," "Go Rest High on That Mountain," and "What a Wonderful World." These songs honor the wisdom, love, and legacy grandparents leave behind. Traditional hymns work well for older generations who valued faith, while classic songs from their era celebrate their life and times.
Should I choose different songs for grandma vs grandpa?
You can personalize songs based on your specific grandparent. For grandmothers, songs like "Wind Beneath My Wings" and "In the Garden" emphasize nurturing love. For grandfathers, "Go Rest High on That Mountain" and "My Way" celebrate strength and legacy. However, many songs work beautifully for both - choose what reflects their personality and faith.
What era of music should I choose for grandparents?
Consider music from your grandparents' formative years - typically 1940s-1960s for many current grandparents. Big band, classic country, traditional hymns, and crooners like Frank Sinatra often resonate. If they were music lovers, include their favorite artists. The Greatest Generation (born 1900s-1920s) typically preferred hymns and classics, while Baby Boomer grandparents (born 1940s-1960s) may appreciate rock, Motown, or folk music.
Are traditional hymns appropriate for grandparent funerals?
Yes, traditional hymns are often perfect for grandparent funerals, especially if faith was important to them. Songs like "Amazing Grace," "How Great Thou Art," "The Old Rugged Cross," and "It Is Well with My Soul" have comforted generations. These hymns reflect the faith and values many grandparents held dear and create a sense of continuity across generations.
How can I honor both grandparents if they passed at different times?
If honoring a grandparent whose spouse has already passed, include songs about reunion and eternal love like "Unchained Melody," "Unforgettable," or "When We All Get to Heaven." Acknowledge their long marriage and the joy of being reunited. You can also play songs that were meaningful to them as a couple, such as their wedding song or favorites they shared.
What songs celebrate a grandparent's role in the family?
Songs celebrating grandparents' family role include "Turn! Turn! Turn!" (cycles of generations), "The Circle Game" (passage of time), "Coat of Many Colors" (family legacy), and "Family Tree" (roots and heritage). For grandmothers specifically, "A Song for Mama" works beautifully. For grandfathers, "Leader of the Band" or "Dance with My Father" honor their guidance and wisdom.
Should funeral music for elderly grandparents be different?
For elderly grandparents (80+), consider their generation's musical preferences: WWII-era songs, traditional hymns, classic country, or big band. Keep the service familiar and comforting rather than modern. Songs like "We'll Meet Again," "I'll Be Seeing You," "Danny Boy," and traditional hymns honor their era and provide comfort through familiar melodies.
How many songs should be played at a grandparent's funeral?
Typically 3-5 songs for a grandparent's funeral: one for the processional (often a hymn like "Amazing Grace"), 1-2 during the service or eulogy (personal favorites or meaningful classics), and one for the recessional (uplifting like "What a Wonderful World"). If the service includes a slideshow or video tribute, add 1-2 background songs that reflect their life and personality.
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Sarah Mitchell
Funeral Music CuratorFormer church music director with 15 years of experience helping families choose meaningful funeral music. Created YourFuneralSongs after losing her mother in 2019.